I’m writing this as a scheduled post as I am out selling and I won’t be able to find the time to do the subject justice.
Ironically, that’s what it’s about – justice.
I have just seen the most distressing item on the News. The killer of Millie Dowler has been sentenced today and her parents and sister made heart-rending statements. They all declared that it was as though THEY had been on trial while the ‘human rights’ of the accused had been respected on all levels.
I feel close to this on two levels. Firstly, Millies body was finally found not far from where I live. It was a shock, especially as the initial investigation was carried out in areas that I knew well from my childhood. Secondly, I understood the family feelings very well as we had experienced something similar.
My mother has always been a kind and gentle person, always putting the other person first and offering hospitality to many waifs and strays. Unfortunately this backfired when, at the age of 80, she was attacked and assaulted by a young man. I won’t go into all the details, but suffice it to say that he imprisoned mum for many hours and did atrocious things to her. Fortunately she was finally rescued when he fell asleep and she was able to raise the alarm. He was still in the house when the police arrived.
The court case was horrific. Not only did she have to relive the entire occurrence, the accused took great delight in making the situation worse. Through the entire proceedings she was made to look as though she had encouraged his ‘advances’ and that she had been complicit in the dreadful acts that were committed. Bear in mind that she was now 80+ and he was in his early 30s. His defence counsel asked the most dreadful questions and made many statements which were totally untrue. I can imagine that this is the sort of trauma that Mr and Mrs Dowler have also had to endure, and my heart goes out to them. The worst part of all was discovering that he had done it all before – but this couldn’t be mentioned during the trial in case it harmed his defence!
Fortunately my mother was able to forgive and put the incident behind her. I can assure you that this was no easy thing to do. The police and witness support team could not believe that she was able to do it. She knew that she had to get on with life – and there was no point in destroying her life as a result of someone else’s actions. A few years later she was diagnosed with breast cancer and had to have a mastectomy. She faced this in the same manner.
Tomorrow she will be 93. Last February we were told that she probably only had another couple of weeks to live. She’s extremely frail, and living on ‘borrowed’ time, but her spirit is still strong. It isn’t her time yet, and she will continue to love and be loved by all her family. We’ll all be there to celebrate tomorrow, even though she won’t be strong enough to even cut the cake. She loves her Lord, and is an example to follow.
My hope and prayer is that eventually the Dowler family will be able to put this behind them and start to live again – that way Millie will live on.